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Growing up in my family, I never talked about emotions or questioned how I felt about anything. I didn’t know how
emotions could affect me or how and why they arose within me. I was aware of only a few simple emotions such as love, happiness, sadness, anger and jealousy. I can’t remember being asked why something made me happy or sad, or being told that there are levels to each and every emotion, as for example being a little sad, or borderline sad going to depression. As a child when I felt an emotion, I would act on it and would either get punished or not, period. It was up to me to figure out what the heck happened, and I wasn’t that smart. I only remember being asked once by my mother why I was crying in my room and receiving good guidance from her. I was twelve years old.

It took me many years and many hard times to figure out there is a gauge to each emotion and that there are many
more than a handful of them. How many can you name? Are you aware of your emotions and what really makes them arise within you? There are many emotions we experience during a single day or week, and it’s so easy to blame someone or something else for our emotions. I’ll give you a personal example from some moons ago.

A while back I was upset with my husband because he wouldn’t ever check to see if the dogs had water or not. I
spoke to my friends about it and some friends said, “It’s because he knows you always take care of them so he
doesn’t worry about it.” Another asked if I had asked him to do so (good one—hey!). “What does he say when you
bring it up?” another asked. “Isn’t that just insensitive of him?” said another. “I can’t believe he does that!” If we
pay attention to the complaint, we will realize that its about attention. Actually the complaint is about lack of
attention towards the dogs. Now if we go deeper, we will realize that it’s actually about lack of attention towards me and it has nothing to do with the dogs. So you see, deep down inside my heart, it was I who needed more attention and I wasn’t aware of it, so I expressed it through the dogs. (Thank you, doggies.)

Now I would like to ask you again, would you say you are aware of your emotions and what really makes them arise
within you? In this example, most people would just continue to complain about their spouse and how he / she
doesn’t pay attention to the dogs. They aren’t aware of the root cause of their emotions, nor do they want to
take a moment to think about what is really troubling them. It’s easier to believe that the complaint is about the
dogs than about themselves. It is less painful when it’s directed to anything but themselves. Most people would
rather complain about the dogs than face their spouse and say, “Can we talk?” Facing and understanding the truth is
painful, and change is hard. Here the steps

1- Be aware of our emotions.

2- Ask where is this really coming from?

3- Be open and honest to hear the answers that are coming
through.

4- Take Action

Remember its not about the dogs, the house, the bills, the back yard, the car, or anything that is outside of us. These things are just gadgets we use to reflect what is going on inside. The more someone complains, the more they are not in touch with the truth.

Going back to my example, I went even deeper and asked myself, “How much attention am I giving my husband?” My rule is, first give and then ask. It’s not a restaurant where you first eat and then pay for it. Consider it as a store
where you first pay then get your stuff. If I’m not getting enough attention, then it just might mean I’m not giving enough attention. Oh, it’s so hard to accept blame and take responsibility for our own actions. I know. I really,
really know. As above, so below. This applies to everything. Know that you have the courage to look within, to look deep into your heart and face the truth and accept responsibility. Changes will only come if you take responsibility for your own actions and are aware of the actions of others. This is like everything else in our lives: it takes practice and patience. Meditate on your issues and concerns and sit quietly to hear the answers, and if you have questions for
your guides and angels, I will be happy to contact them for you. If you have any questions or are interested in a healing session, contact me at (arsi @ quietmind . us) no space in between.